Wednesday, December 1, 2010

人到中年

從課堂和書本裡學到,從40歲開始,這個人生階段稱之為 'Middle Adulthood'.

無論是 Erik Erikson 所解釋的 Stagnation vs Generative ,還是 Daniel Levinson’s Seasons of Life 所指的 Midlife Transition: remaining years become more precious …. Inner pressure to find more satisfying life path before it is too late.

我相信重點都是有關珍惜時間,趁還有心有力,找時間做自己喜歡做的事,別過份單一專注事業或照顧家庭或繼續頹廢,到老時不要有太多所謂 'unfinished business',然後帶著很多未完的心願離開。

有趣的是,風水輪流轉,原來男人和女人踏入中年後:
Many men become more interested in expression of feelings, intimate relationships and nurturing, i.e. traits traditionally labeled as feminine.

Many women become more assertive, self-confident and achievement-oriented, i.e characteristics traditionally labeled as masculine.

變也好,不變也好,始終因人而異,只要別勉強自己便可。

而 Carol Ryff’s Dimensions of Well-Being (self-acceptance, positive relations with others, autonomy, environmental mastery, purpose in life, personal growth) 就的確值得參考和自我思考。

定下新目標,接受自己,將壓力變為動力,我相信 Midlife Crisis 也非人生必經的歷程。

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