tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-64593477783317392472024-02-19T01:11:40.735-08:00別想太多 Happinessisnowhere甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.comBlogger128125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-14720230664607940702011-12-13T23:01:00.000-08:002011-12-14T01:06:48.676-08:00Self-Admin Test正在回顧過去一年的自己,忽然想起年初因為 A&T 功課要求,做了四個 self-admin test:<br /><br /><blockquote>Raven’s Standard Progressive Matrices <br />- very good, above 98th percentile<br /><br />Self-directed Search (SDS) <br />- my summary code is SA (Social & Artistic nature)<br /><br />Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) <br />- belong to Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging (INFJ)<br /><br />Personality Diagnostic Questionnaire for the DSM-4 (PDQ4) <br />- no Personality Disorder</blockquote><br />結果頗有趣,發現這個年紀的自己 general intelligence 仍然很好,還有 SDS 和 MBTI test result 顯示我原來非常適合 involve in the occupations related to social service or health care (e.g. social worker, counsellor, psychotherapist, childhood education). <br /><br />意想不到 INFJ 這個類別原來很矜貴,只佔十六個類別中的 1-3%,還是 'an Idealist Portrait of the Counselor'. 甚麼是 INFJ ? 就是:<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="font-style:italic;">Slightly expressed introvert<br />Moderately expressed intuitive personality<br />Distinctively expressed feeling personality<br />Very expressed judging personality</span></blockquote><br />最同意的描述是 : great listeners, naturally interested in helping people with their personal problems, directed toward communicating with people in a personalized way, came to read others’ feelings so keenly, concerned with people’s feelings, “doers” as well as dreamers, and at intervals INFJs will suddenly withdraw into themselves!<br /><br />那過去廿年我是否選錯科入錯行呢?甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-91329573887852761672011-12-07T17:59:00.000-08:002011-12-12T22:05:23.403-08:00再見 Therapy昨晚心情已很興奮,想起今晚終於完成最後一課,可以回一回氣,整頓一下雜亂的筆記和 Journal.....以及心情, 好想給自己十個 'Like'!<br /><br />不用再趕西隧飛 van,不用再長途拔涉上堂,不用再趕忙爬樓梯追電梯,不用再吃 Starbucks' muffin & green tea latte, 不用再放學傾功課,不用再星期六掙扎不上堂.... 噢!我竟然奇蹟地完成了九科!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBa5yE8NMB6esgNfQZqt6_6noKSYJIQZp75tRl5g7ZiBJp-G4SOlesh9-elfqYeUiYcpgSNWzIIuw6rPL-7X3uPU8SlzNF7p6nNHeX-A7K0CLraA4pbjjQo80UnKPUcjYBWjQ8awxNhpLn/s1600/Play+Therapy+Last+Course_11_20111207.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBa5yE8NMB6esgNfQZqt6_6noKSYJIQZp75tRl5g7ZiBJp-G4SOlesh9-elfqYeUiYcpgSNWzIIuw6rPL-7X3uPU8SlzNF7p6nNHeX-A7K0CLraA4pbjjQo80UnKPUcjYBWjQ8awxNhpLn/s320/Play+Therapy+Last+Course_11_20111207.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685428288563582706" /></a><br />這一年多裡,發生了很多事,算是苦多甜少。但停下來想一想,若不是讀了 counseling,相信今天的我已經榻了下來吧,還是要感謝上天給我的眷顧和引領。<br /><br />能讀完九科,要感激的人實在太多,會緊記 'You don't know you can do unbelievable things until you have tried it.' <br /><br />What an amazing journey! 餘下來的 practicum, 就當是 recovery run 吧。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-57881139775720737072011-12-05T21:07:00.000-08:002011-12-12T22:13:20.588-08:00不要再捱夜<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyObTELNTJg26TxysoXsYgfL_F8Gkk3UNnxE1EgdsUe_vrO_YP00FWlb65gKDOLdVdE8qjah4neCuY7WfARnHCcGNnymhBeHl3JDMYCfnrbDTh1eLrkF4MPpYfiQ5XLZY0zPGibh_i4lNV/s1600/SRR+Paper.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyObTELNTJg26TxysoXsYgfL_F8Gkk3UNnxE1EgdsUe_vrO_YP00FWlb65gKDOLdVdE8qjah4neCuY7WfARnHCcGNnymhBeHl3JDMYCfnrbDTh1eLrkF4MPpYfiQ5XLZY0zPGibh_i4lNV/s200/SRR+Paper.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685491425573170514" /></a>就快到終點,寫完這份 systematic review project ,就做完手頭上所有學科的功課。<br /><br />不太喜歡做這類有關 evidence based review ,對那些甚麼 dependent variables, independent variables, measures, reliability & validity 沒啥興趣,只是不能不做。<br /><br />特意為夜欄人靜趕 paper 而買的這部 notebook ,雖然不經常用,但在重要時刻曾經救了我幾命,要好好待它。<br /><br />下學期做 research project 食糊還是要靠佢,到時再見!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-59423414839788629242011-11-26T00:46:00.000-08:002011-12-14T01:01:24.050-08:00Emotion-Focused難得 Professor Leslie Greenberg 來 HKU 開 2-day workshop, 無論如何都不能錯過這位 Pope of Emotion-Focused Therapy 大師級的教學。<br /><br />因為遲到而有幸坐在最前排的位置,眼前的他出奇地親切,活像坐鹿車而來的聖誕老人,對人的 emotions 敏感度很高,很難想像他曾是一位工程師。<br /><br />一連兩天朝九晚五,領我終於稍為了解怎樣分辨 primary emotion & secondary emotion, 難度是怎樣準確地 reflect & transforming emotion, change emotion with emotion, 有些人需要多些 validation, 另一些人可能要多些 silence, Therapist’s empathic responses 和敏感度會有決定性的影響。<br /><br />Two-chair dialogue for self-criticism 很吸引,但不容易掌握,我覺得難度遠高過 CBT or Psychodynamic Approach.<br /><br />最深刻的莫過於 Professor Greenberg said “If you let the tears speak, just let it speak....”<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi0CG9H5_43ZEcz9TGVdqVI5_VpPscNfA-0gDzPOCeo2qOM9q1NGjLWB1cSPbQpcnTdkUDE48L5_vZwUUY6yRWKoPDb0iuiLBilFoMneUt4bF8MLJYvsXUautlq5kunadJLf-iWyODRewe/s1600/EFT+Workhop+Greenberg_1+20111126.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi0CG9H5_43ZEcz9TGVdqVI5_VpPscNfA-0gDzPOCeo2qOM9q1NGjLWB1cSPbQpcnTdkUDE48L5_vZwUUY6yRWKoPDb0iuiLBilFoMneUt4bF8MLJYvsXUautlq5kunadJLf-iWyODRewe/s320/EFT+Workhop+Greenberg_1+20111126.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685906291816897522" /></a>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-70658504978028207542011-10-20T00:32:00.000-07:002011-12-13T00:38:46.523-08:00The Guest House沒有報讀EFT,只因擔心沒時間應付 N 的功課,要感謝同學轉寄過來的 notes <br />,還有我十分喜歡的這一段文字:<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">The Guest-House</span><br /><br />This being human is a guest-house<br />Every morning a new arrival.<br /><br />A joy, a depression, a meanness,<br />some momentary awareness comes <br />as an unexpected visitor.<br /><br />Welcome and entertain them all!<br />Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,<br />who violently sweep your house<br />empty of its furniture.<br /><br />Still, treat each guest honourably.<br />He may be clearing you<br />out for some new delight.<br /><br />The dark thought, the shame, the malice,<br />meet them at the door laughing,<br />and invite them in.<br /><br />Be grateful for whoever comes,<br />because each has been sent <br />as a guide from beyond.<br /><br />- Say I Am You poems of Rumi, translated by John Moyne and Coleman Barks Maypop 1994 -</span></blockquote>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-84187228517593999492011-09-26T00:03:00.000-07:002011-12-13T18:43:23.846-08:00Inner Strength為做功課而看完這本 Virginia Axline 的 Dibs In Search of Self,很好,有一點得著。讓我明白到怎樣去了解孩子的心,原來接受孩子多一點,他們也會接受自己多一點,就算大人也一樣.... just accept who they are. <br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmI5ggEwLUdkYUtEJbVGgeXH_j6lQXMSWWaJYQyS7TGxabKCPJDTKZocbZyon1dpM-hgC-zEDRi3cNrKsjhHitJUNCmeLezhyqtSsJ4h5aWKOszp4Gu5O5hJyCMq0GSLw12alplmSM1ykI/s1600/Dibs.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmI5ggEwLUdkYUtEJbVGgeXH_j6lQXMSWWaJYQyS7TGxabKCPJDTKZocbZyon1dpM-hgC-zEDRi3cNrKsjhHitJUNCmeLezhyqtSsJ4h5aWKOszp4Gu5O5hJyCMq0GSLw12alplmSM1ykI/s200/Dibs.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685521739411447266" /></a><blockquote><span style="font-style:italic;">From V. Axline:<br /><br />Believe that understanding will lead us to the threshold of more effective ways of helping the person to develop and utilize his capacities more constructively.<br /> <br />To avoid facing this reality factor would not help him. He needed to develop strength to cope with his world, but that strength had to come from within him.<br /><br />Letting the client to develop strength or change from within oneself in order to achieve psychological independence. Incorrect affection may deter one’s ability and flexibility to explore his/her inner strength and resources.</span></blockquote>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-75837924416023998552011-09-19T00:27:00.000-07:002011-12-13T00:32:41.095-08:00調適暑假全職媽媽的生活過去,正努力調適再上學上班的生活。這個學期有:<br /><br /><blockquote>Wednesday: Play Therapy<br />Thursday: Practice Research in Human Service</blockquote><br />還有250 practicum hours (120 direct clients contact, 60 supervision & 70 others),這樣密集的課程,無怪乎同學說似讀 full time course 多過 part time course。<br /><br />不計算practicum 要寫的 intake summary & session notes ,單計星期三和四那兩科,這學期要做 7張 paper, 9個 quiz 及 1個 video, 好不忙碌。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-38456140992905479532011-08-20T17:49:00.000-07:002011-12-13T18:51:47.112-08:00散亂中完成這個暑假近乎全職媽媽的生活幾乎把我弄得頭暈眼花,真的不容易適應沒上班的日子。選擇讀這兩個 electives ,算是一個明智的決定!<br /><br />在學習 Family Therapy 中有點體會和 self reflection,心裡偶爾像有把聲音提醒自己要留意 differentiation of self, anxiety level, emotional postures, avoid child-focused & over-function, any multigenerational transmission....<br /><br />某一刻感覺到上天好像特意安排這兩個 electives 給此時此刻的我,這個自我治療過程,很奇妙,很深刻,也很感恩。<br /><br />在紛擾散亂中再完成了兩科,原來,只要繼續撐,凡事都會變得有可能。<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1xsh9ZD2nAdSyTREWYdzpoWqoIBleNQLJ5a7BWTWD6xeR65MbKzAkQ8UTbIefciWnGkYJk1MzjTB4CwYCoeLSAWnPNL5ZKFzB1hmOUUwv1r1cCPb3dUopZhLha_nh7nfLPEG2fYD3rqN9/s1600/Family+Therapy+Last+Lesson_5_20110825.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1xsh9ZD2nAdSyTREWYdzpoWqoIBleNQLJ5a7BWTWD6xeR65MbKzAkQ8UTbIefciWnGkYJk1MzjTB4CwYCoeLSAWnPNL5ZKFzB1hmOUUwv1r1cCPb3dUopZhLha_nh7nfLPEG2fYD3rqN9/s320/Family+Therapy+Last+Lesson_5_20110825.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685426055402551282" /></a>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-1717664828363027752011-07-15T17:46:00.000-07:002011-12-13T00:03:07.985-08:00Summer Term Electives早前選擇了暑假讀兩個 Electives ,好讓下學年騰出多點時間做 Practicum.<br /><br />Art Therapy 還有三堂便圓結,很慶幸透過 Art 讓自己 clear out ;餘下的 Family Therapy 到八月底就完成,幸好功課量也不算太多,對我而言應該可以應付得來,那見步行步吧。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-22252352107188238252011-06-23T17:38:00.000-07:002011-12-12T17:46:06.442-08:00出乎意料的成績收到了第二個學期的成績,跟預計的有點出入,是出乎意料之外的好。<br /><br />總結第一年的成績,五科裡頭一個 C 也沒有,雖然從不在意拿甚麼成績,但看到結果卻又有點沾沾自喜,在有限的資源下拿到這個 result ,那些 burn the midnight oil 的晚上算是得到一點薄酬吧。<br /><br />最開心莫過於 Ab Psy 從 N 手中拿到 A ,為了那些 disorder 的 inclusion criteria, assessment, differential diagnosis & case conceptualization,不知花了我多少心機和時間,真的從沒如此認真過,未計 oral exam 所寫的 case assessment ,只是 mid-term & final paper 已超過一萬字,這個 A 的確是得來不易,對這一刻士氣低落的我而言總算有點安慰。<br /><br />繼續要 Think Positive ,這是目前最好的方法。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-70157397689959300732011-06-13T17:29:00.000-07:002011-12-12T17:37:07.989-08:00我是誰在 Art Therapy 課堂上畫了這一刻的自己:希望風雨交加下,這個燈塔仍然能緊守使命,繼續在黑暗的大海上為船隻引路,讓它們平安渡過這場惡劣的天氣。<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL2574VadSWLROg08E1ZKoNmxSJyu6VkRo-ISewm5piyR1Z0PtP2qdFsZYXIhdMQX5CUuSw6keTEQhoGt3ekvmuW_gkgFfw59yJFFk7t85m71TqBkVPvY22uED91cOnFxXeSk6XE9PPsBr/s1600/Lighthouse.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL2574VadSWLROg08E1ZKoNmxSJyu6VkRo-ISewm5piyR1Z0PtP2qdFsZYXIhdMQX5CUuSw6keTEQhoGt3ekvmuW_gkgFfw59yJFFk7t85m71TqBkVPvY22uED91cOnFxXeSk6XE9PPsBr/s200/Lighthouse.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685419740393451970" /></a><br />下面那張是同學畫給我的 Portrait,聽了她的形容,感動得淚水在眼眶內滾動。她說這個掛著一雙黑眼圈沒有笑容的 'super mom' ,雖然疲倦,但卻有一雙強壯的臂彎去保護她的孩子。<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjs-78Qit0G1RA9llbsvbbnixlcQdLAmVz_EwCxMBY1tSm4iuhj4SrjRDOOg8HEB255S7mTnL9B_0aea_-BHftKEC0rZyju8GYNc6PFcEetpAm3Mv8JBirUT_RZQvcTMB8Hb8VvdNxp8yEF/s1600/supermom.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjs-78Qit0G1RA9llbsvbbnixlcQdLAmVz_EwCxMBY1tSm4iuhj4SrjRDOOg8HEB255S7mTnL9B_0aea_-BHftKEC0rZyju8GYNc6PFcEetpAm3Mv8JBirUT_RZQvcTMB8Hb8VvdNxp8yEF/s200/supermom.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685420143082481202" /></a><br />是的,這個月來我的確累透,雖然我只是個普通人,但也希望擁有超能力去保護我的大M細M。告訴自己,就當自己是 super mom 吧!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-31012540070739221012011-04-27T20:39:00.000-07:002011-12-12T17:14:24.729-08:00A Room With A View<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZOvDl_03sykR05fSyQh7jhdPJ56GWsH7Tj6BokpgWqWMkN8lYTHl4y4XMa112MMJziwmV4l7MFyar6KYxsMckstHlgPzcRQzm-EhekZNkJACx59pZTPexwTR6kCyNEQJ7AkCFqHQtEM62/s1600/A+room+with+a+view.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZOvDl_03sykR05fSyQh7jhdPJ56GWsH7Tj6BokpgWqWMkN8lYTHl4y4XMa112MMJziwmV4l7MFyar6KYxsMckstHlgPzcRQzm-EhekZNkJACx59pZTPexwTR6kCyNEQJ7AkCFqHQtEM62/s200/A+room+with+a+view.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5684355168611318594" /></a>好不容易終於捱到 self awareness & skills training 的最後一課,沒誇張,真的是捱,有好幾次好想放棄再讀,很氣餒。<br /><br />幾個月來要兼顧的事情實在太多太多,過山車的生活似不停地挑戰我的極限,已經不再是信心問題或時間問題,而是那種有點心力交瘁的感覺太濃烈,確實把我的意志弄得有點消沉。<br /><br />很多個星期六都在這裡看到日落,在這房內,載滿了很多同學的歡笑和淚水。<br /><br />能夠完成這個學期的最後一科,代表了這個課程確實有其魔力,讓我看清自己,了解自己,更重要是在逆境中提醒自己,鼓勵自己,當然少不了耍欣賞自己的耐力。<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqpykczqTmrbwHOjsf4W723A14PFKtKIBJSy-YV1yHKxUe_F8AKEh7tvwAUGNXP2qud2_M_AOJI8buXbmI7LxkYc60F3hEtXjzSg965eugRqcjZrii_tGU9lXkikNHi49OEuN97Ruoy9Se/s1600/lipstick.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqpykczqTmrbwHOjsf4W723A14PFKtKIBJSy-YV1yHKxUe_F8AKEh7tvwAUGNXP2qud2_M_AOJI8buXbmI7LxkYc60F3hEtXjzSg965eugRqcjZrii_tGU9lXkikNHi49OEuN97Ruoy9Se/s200/lipstick.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5684356535911337874" /></a><br />會懷念同學從台灣帶回來的鳳梨酥,還有 Wendy 親手做的潤唇膏,會記著『洋蔥咭』上的那句 “They that sow in tears shall reap in joy”.<br /><br />第一學年終於劃上句號,成功完成了五科......<br />Earned it!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-38346485802833188752011-04-20T20:34:00.000-07:002011-12-12T17:13:13.676-08:00難得的LecturerN 是個難得一見的好 Lecturer. 有專業知識不等於識教書或有心教書,她可算是個例外。<br /><br />我不會忘記她的狠和串,不會忘記她的超多超難功課,不會忘記她內裡那顆溫柔感性的心,還有那個叫全班老中青同學心跳加速額頭冒汗的抽籤 Oral Presentation.<br /><br />還是感激她,她這套教法確實令大家在最短時間記熟及學懂 assess 各種 disorder ,也許會如她所願,以這種教法,我們以後都不易忘掉她所教的東西....好感動呢!<br /><br />今晚那頓謝師宴,大家都輕鬆哂,超 enjoy!!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRMelatfGeI3P0cedOPNi6I4S-D2UsnCEC_0swBekoCvdQb3r9eljT-YoTznX-ErNo17zMjS53Sp-B_WVtsg426Vyrsy95Mw7Vj8NS6mVmZduJqUc_m_ypc7y8uEfWH7HQHZP221Cr7yfm/s1600/Abnormal+Psychology+Last+Lesson_1_20110420.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 238px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRMelatfGeI3P0cedOPNi6I4S-D2UsnCEC_0swBekoCvdQb3r9eljT-YoTznX-ErNo17zMjS53Sp-B_WVtsg426Vyrsy95Mw7Vj8NS6mVmZduJqUc_m_ypc7y8uEfWH7HQHZP221Cr7yfm/s320/Abnormal+Psychology+Last+Lesson_1_20110420.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5684354146171236178" /></a>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-14361844386942813212011-04-09T20:30:00.000-07:002011-12-09T20:34:02.385-08:00玫瑰花茶<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJPEwka_L18N2fVfGrn9q0FbKjcApn-BzR7SV96jaDuIvj_FhlXG82E0dRW3t5OtCjUK1DpfKqVLgDZJWfuFPYdYRWLD8mlKNDq0cIDz4rkoIXPF2kXPlhWacBo7g8mYFLsea6vDCmU80Y/s1600/Roses+Tea.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJPEwka_L18N2fVfGrn9q0FbKjcApn-BzR7SV96jaDuIvj_FhlXG82E0dRW3t5OtCjUK1DpfKqVLgDZJWfuFPYdYRWLD8mlKNDq0cIDz4rkoIXPF2kXPlhWacBo7g8mYFLsea6vDCmU80Y/s200/Roses+Tea.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5684353208038741874" /></a><br />中醫同學告訴我,正當大家勤力地趕功課,捱更抵夜會令人肝火上升,好應該多飲幾杯玫瑰花茶清肝熱。<br /><br />飲了幾天,還加點蜜糖,好味之餘,果然痱滋也沒了,看來我該想想以玫瑰花茶取代奶茶咖啡吧。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-33770875436066050732011-03-09T17:23:00.000-08:002011-12-12T17:28:24.464-08:00美其名的Oral Presentation<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2VWjWycLupyx9m9On4g5Oc1sCp1ML6_OHyY2Uyk57PUZEiYQNOjmOhbTqKvrBOHZcfUqzyUyPJUhiPsWatpqBNrsvZop5egcHrHWtO6mmEQPIxwev3Sn6GfrBOC-UzEUKQ16kVvNDw6Ng/s1600/Lunch+reading.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2VWjWycLupyx9m9On4g5Oc1sCp1ML6_OHyY2Uyk57PUZEiYQNOjmOhbTqKvrBOHZcfUqzyUyPJUhiPsWatpqBNrsvZop5egcHrHWtO6mmEQPIxwev3Sn6GfrBOC-UzEUKQ16kVvNDw6Ng/s200/Lunch+reading.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685418212681632258" /></a>這科 Abnormal Psychology 的確搞到大家都 psy 了,要熟稔 DSM IV Axis I & II 的主要 Disorder ,還要 analyse & assess 不同個案,寫 case 寫到頭都大。<br /><br />很佩服 Lecturer 的仔細,將每個 case 都做到有大量的思考空間,讓我們要抽絲剝繭看完書和一大堆 journals 才能較為有信心判斷每個 case 屬於那個 Disorder. <br /><br />我必須要寫個「服」字,只有她才使我連吃午飯也不敢放下筆記,擔心問漏問題,記錯symptoms.<br /><br />同學們都說美其名的 Oral Presentation ,實質是駭人的 Oral Exam ,跟做兩張大 paper 無甚麼分別。無怪乎今晚開課時大家都笑說自己開始有 GAD, PTSD, Panic Disorder....! 她一聲令下收書清枱面,認真到叫大家都屏氣凝神,緊張過小時候的問答比賽。<br /><br />作為最後一組被抽中的組別,由 6:30 驚到 9:20,這夜發現原來沒有抽獎運是一件好事,我果然沒被抽中,要感激我組的強人組員接了這一棒,由衷的感激!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-35673573557135862252011-02-25T17:17:00.000-08:002011-12-13T18:58:46.959-08:00雪上加霜上星期病到頭昏腦脹,今日還收到 department 說因為上星期缺席 Group Therapy Workshop 所以要做份extra assignment ‘to facilitate our learning’,我終於知道甚麼叫'沒有錦上添花,只有雪上加霜'。<br /><br />看到令人惱火的 email,雖不能改變事實,但也忍不住回敬了幾個 email 告訴他們 I feel like ‘double loss’,還把時間表一拼送出: <br /><br /><blockquote>Mar 5 Skills Training - self reflection journal<br />Mar 7 A&T Paper - self admin of test<br />Mar 9 Ab Psy mid term paper + oral presentation of cases<br />Mar 14 A&T Group presentation on translated test<br />Mar 28 A&T Group presentation on critical review of DSM<br />Apr 13 Ab Psy final term paper<br />Apr 18 A&T quiz<br />Apr 20 Ab Psy reflection paper due + oral presentation of cases<br />May 3 A&T final paper<br />May 7 Skills Training - self reflection paper<br /></blockquote><br />最激氣的時候,只能如同學所言 when feel “startled” by the laundry list of assignments, 唯有說句 'curse and condemn those who give us hard times' and 'it may stretch our potential to the point that we may not foresee'!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-24131861770800541102011-01-25T19:35:00.000-08:002011-01-25T17:21:16.525-08:00Think Positive今個月突發事情似乎一浪接一浪,沒完沒了。<br /><br />心情有點像坐過山車,血壓低的我偶爾也可感覺到血壓上升,心跳加速。還慶幸前兩天連續兩個早上回歸跑道,讓腦筋可以稍靜下來,小休片刻。<br /><br />昨天由收到電話到接老爸入院安排手術,短短的一個下午,由接收到發放消息,由迷惘到了解病情,由不安到接受,由舉棋不定到決定做手術,都必須在數小時內決定。<br /><br />腦袋只不停消化消息和 think positive, 想着:<br /><blockquote>還好,能及早發現;<br />還好,老爸同意做手術;<br />還好,可以用內視鏡微創做;<br />還好,這星期不用上課;<br />還好,孩子也很懂事;<br />還有就是..... 我還好,還頂得住。</blockquote><br />今天手術完成了,希望老爸快點恢復體力,往後的跟進和安排,往後再算吧。<br />甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-79518091523523762702011-01-22T23:04:00.000-08:002011-01-24T20:09:35.848-08:00生日快樂<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE_94wvFixMF2nv-EiLyS205RVg5ZZXJvOCPq6BfcZZCHjw3VtnmGZ6lk8DegzEjjaz4PdQlePSWA6hWXFIa3DK1S86uYvogI2saRY6bgEocD5uBLxtcOlVy18I_iB0BwxXKVlrTELklSk/s1600/My+Bday+cake.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE_94wvFixMF2nv-EiLyS205RVg5ZZXJvOCPq6BfcZZCHjw3VtnmGZ6lk8DegzEjjaz4PdQlePSWA6hWXFIa3DK1S86uYvogI2saRY6bgEocD5uBLxtcOlVy18I_iB0BwxXKVlrTELklSk/s200/My+Bday+cake.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5565970605330470882" /></a>很疲累的一月份,大M細M剛病癒,今天沒外出的打算,省點假期,我還是選擇了上班。<br /><br />如常到一樓 PC ‘啲咭’買奶茶,意想不到的是,結帳時那位熟悉的店務員跟我說 Happy Birthday,原來生日有一件蛋糕送,Great!<br /><br />的確,人生其實好簡單 ..... 知足常樂,簡單就是快樂。<br /><br />我祝自己生日快樂,最好天天都快樂!<br /><br />原來哲學家弗蘭西斯•培根(Francis Bacon)也是1月22日出生的,這是我比較喜歡的 Quote:<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><blockquote>Hope is a good breakfast, but it is a bad supper. <br /><br />Age appears to be best in four things; old wood best to burn, old wine to drink, old friends to trust, and old authors to read.<br /><br />There is a difference between happiness and wisdom: he that thinks himself the happiest man is really so; but he that thinks himself the wisest is generally the greatest fool.</blockquote></span>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-4797449565774823442011-01-18T19:59:00.000-08:002011-01-24T20:16:20.403-08:00消化不良終於開始整理這一堆筆記,只是一個科目,看見已有點消化不良。<br /><br />這回肯定要花雙倍時間消化這一系列的 Disorder,在「連坐法」的壓力下,我絕不能連累組員。<br /><br />可能這的確是個好方法,推動 (或逼使) 我們熟讀各種 symptoms ,多一分認識,自然多一分了解。<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNHKRDDsAfmk-IF3dxI3oJ8C_RfY27j2HPdHMmLfryMK9CIRDVqYFXhn-EGdN6i7IE9d5LErqxiOSZ4rQHdHfpsuH0hBx6LDYNOY0zDJJpO4BHIudYIe8sT-_lb7rxBJ_MSK0pY4E55Dqm/s1600/Abnormal+Psy_clear.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNHKRDDsAfmk-IF3dxI3oJ8C_RfY27j2HPdHMmLfryMK9CIRDVqYFXhn-EGdN6i7IE9d5LErqxiOSZ4rQHdHfpsuH0hBx6LDYNOY0zDJJpO4BHIudYIe8sT-_lb7rxBJ_MSK0pY4E55Dqm/s200/Abnormal+Psy_clear.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5565968506200314642" /></a><br />別以為那兩本書最貴,這本超薄的 A&T, 打折後也要 $515!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfy1BztC06EeIYb7UFnamZcgzifhr9LgVOjx971bNh3_FzTCfiTBJFM5nY3oDWIBPVMc8UH1vrNKrjKkf4D0K0yCfQnQWq7oW2EYrFLUFsBZayTeY-tCOK_ytuZ_6FaqaTXuQTzvB-RQzx/s1600/A+and+T+Book_clear.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfy1BztC06EeIYb7UFnamZcgzifhr9LgVOjx971bNh3_FzTCfiTBJFM5nY3oDWIBPVMc8UH1vrNKrjKkf4D0K0yCfQnQWq7oW2EYrFLUFsBZayTeY-tCOK_ytuZ_6FaqaTXuQTzvB-RQzx/s200/A+and+T+Book_clear.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5565968515250580850" /></a>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-66451109149186773862011-01-11T20:06:00.000-08:002011-01-11T20:11:04.835-08:00鐡漢柔情沒想到華叔的離開會帶出一段感人的愛情故事。<br /><br />看到報章報導《有線電視》那次訪問,說華叔在鏡頭前老淚縱橫,久久不能言語道:「你心中有深愛的人,又有人在心中愛你,即使天人相隔,不組織家庭,亦會感到幸福!」<br /><br />另轉載自明報1月9日 “他在其中一篇文章〈一個難忘的聖誕節〉曾寫道﹕「這是我的一個難忘的聖誕節。那位班主任,幾年後不幸病逝。這麼多年來,我不時在夢中,與她默默不得語地相遇。」短短45字,代表45年來的追憶似水年華。”<br /><br />“曾經有學生在課間問黃老師「什麼是拍拖?」黃老師在黑板上畫了兩艘相依小船,答道﹕「兩小船停泊在一起就是拍拖了。」”<br /><br />他們這段看似輕描淡寫的愛情,淡淡的來,淡淡的去;卻洗抹不去絲絲的哀愁,綿綿的回憶。 <br /><br />華叔的老淚,我相信除了愛,還有遺憾,遺憾她忍瞞自己的病,遺憾當年輕易放手,遺憾不能陪她走最後的一程,遺憾有生之年不可再見,遺憾有很多未說完的話……<br /><br />在愛情世界裡,不用說千言萬語,鐡漢的一滴淚,已告訴了一切,逝者曾經活過愛過,就是永恆。<br /><br />然而,盡在不言中的愛是甜是苦,永遠只有當事人才能知道。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-58601262135159290312011-01-10T00:10:00.000-08:002011-01-10T00:21:57.758-08:00試用期完畢今晚開始第二個學期,看看時間表便知肯定會比上一學期忙碌。<br /><br /><blockquote>Monday: 'Assessment and Testing'<br />Wednesday: 'Abnormal Psychology'<br />Saturday: 'Self Awareness Training / Skills Training / Group Therapy'</blockquote><br />雖然早前成功渡過了自己定下的試用期,但臨近開學,那種想返又不想返的感覺總是反反覆覆,仍擔心照顧孩子的時間不夠。<br /><br />再三思索,還是聽取友人的意見,別給孩子樹立「半途而廢」的壞榜樣。<br /><br />好的,就憑這句說話,今晚繼續上陣,三個月後又一條好漢,加油!甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-45694475410247076382011-01-03T01:24:00.000-08:002011-01-03T01:28:39.884-08:00轉 Blog Title Again去年的確想得太多,想得多,然後想得到更多,有時候有點像在大海裡飄浮,漫無目的,希望今年能做到「別想太多」。<br /><br />從小就很愛近距離看海,大海給我那種平靜的感覺,開心傷心的時候都管用。<br /><br />放在 Blog Title 的這張照片,是去年在沙巴 resort 拍下的,記得幾小時後的那個晚上,行雷閃電,大雨滂沱,睡醒後打開門窗,又再見這麼美麗的南中國海。<br /><br />原來,晴天陰天下雨天都會過去,也會再來,提醒自己,還是別想太多。<br /><br /><blockquote><em>~~ Happiness depends upon ourselves – Aristotle ~~</em></blockquote>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-90729765922121311922010-12-31T23:30:00.000-08:002011-01-09T17:43:26.304-08:002010年總結每年這個時候都說:「時間過得真快,又一年了!」<br /><br />這一年很忙碌,埋數算一算,我會給自己80分。<br /><br />三月完成了 Life Coaching Course,九月繼續挑戰自己,長途跋涉返學讀 Counselling,雖然忙碌過隻工蜂,睡眠不足,多了一雙熊貓眼,但總算仍有心有力,年底成功地完成了第一個學期,找到久違了的滿足感。<br /><br />喜出望外的是,孩子好像比從前多了一點獨立,會多加留意自己的溫習時間。雖然他們每星期總有兩晚臨睡前見不到我,有時候也會打電話留個口信給我道晚安,但我亦守了承諾,其他日子會跟以往一樣,盡量陪伴他們,趕 Paper 也只會在他們入睡後才開始,將影響減至最低,我知道他們是理解的。<br /><br />可惜跑步方面未能達標,加上腳傷,十二月甚至是零紀錄,希望明年一月可以重身調整跑步時間,不許躲懶。<br /><br />心情方面也有改善的空間,仍積極地留意和處理自己的盲點,定期做 self supervision,好好管理自己的思緒。<br /><br />在年底跟多年不見的中學同學再次聯繫起來,那夜吃著宵夜談天說地,很暢快開懷。往後的日子,我們會繼續保持聯絡,珍惜這份遺失了好一段日子的友誼。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-53990171962556339592010-12-24T23:59:00.000-08:002011-01-13T18:00:17.268-08:00平靜的平安夜帶孩子走到尖東,有點像走到二十幾年前的聖誕節。原來以前覺得特別的燈飾,在這個年頭只不過是標準布景板。<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOEkVGWqPTdTx_Rfvnyjmx5tQ1kX9dkMi8e7PNkZKMyWq0boyPv-BqYqKWn3pq6T68lRn9RDtOP43-57STfRhSCER7i4KX-P6NMdUCPQlBDmaC7rNg324OMeYWTRSZHPJF7WELFcamRg0q/s1600/2010+xmas+eve_crop.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 123px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOEkVGWqPTdTx_Rfvnyjmx5tQ1kX9dkMi8e7PNkZKMyWq0boyPv-BqYqKWn3pq6T68lRn9RDtOP43-57STfRhSCER7i4KX-P6NMdUCPQlBDmaC7rNg324OMeYWTRSZHPJF7WELFcamRg0q/s320/2010+xmas+eve_crop.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5561854793487339842" /></a><br />十來歲時尖東是我們的蒲點,有很多的感情瓜葛曾幾何時都是在這裡發生。<br /><br />這個平安夜,即興帶孩子到那裡逛逛,相似的背景,然而,今天我這個過路人,巳成了左攜右帶的兩子之母。甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459347778331739247.post-76500472009812100622010-12-23T22:02:00.000-08:002011-01-07T19:49:15.816-08:00失去、重聚Winnie 的離開,令一班多年不見的同學重聚。人生就是這麼諷刺,得和失總是手牽手來敲你的門。<br /><br />追思會裡重遇二十多年不見的同學,看着投影機一張張的相片,我們一起努力尋找相中「娘炳」的自己,很有趣。<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMKjl_AFNtghmsIlttVGoTPPwGGctHmZPTOSqV2vlQZPSShctPkX_pO1HdyRkZn_7v0GAy5u1Ak2j2LZUwC4qDhfKrWEIK3TLhgBo7ZO5TJWk_syxnfiSG9XD_cQjtKH0M4GfvW03XFaPO/s1600/F.1+OLC+Class+Photo.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 211px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMKjl_AFNtghmsIlttVGoTPPwGGctHmZPTOSqV2vlQZPSShctPkX_pO1HdyRkZn_7v0GAy5u1Ak2j2LZUwC4qDhfKrWEIK3TLhgBo7ZO5TJWk_syxnfiSG9XD_cQjtKH0M4GfvW03XFaPO/s320/F.1+OLC+Class+Photo.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5559656956219297810" /></a><br />搜索腦袋裡的回憶,我們都拾回遺忘已久的天真和歡笑聲。<br /><br />唱著「那天再重聚」,再聽 'Try to Remember' ,想起很多人和事,看到眼前這個失去了媽媽的小朋友,令我想起他和小女孩。<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="font-style:italic;">Try to remember the kind of September<br />When life was slow and oh, so mellow.<br />Try to remember the kind of September<br />When grass was green and grain was yellow.<br />Try to remember the kind of September<br />When you were a tender and callow fellow.<br />Try to remember, and if you remember,<br />Then follow.<br /><br />Try to remember when life was so tender<br />That no one wept except the willow.<br />Try to remember when life was so tender<br />That dreams were kept beside your pillow.<br />Try to remember when life was so tender<br />That love was an ember about to billow.<br />Try to remember, and if you remember,<br />Then follow.<br /><br />Deep in December, it's nice to remember,<br />Although you know the snow will follow.<br />Deep in December, it's nice to remember,<br />Without a hurt the heart is hollow.<br />Deep in December, it's nice to remember,<br />The fire of September that made us mellow.<br />Deep in December, our hearts should remember<br />And follow.<br /></span></blockquote>甘美http://www.blogger.com/profile/12803410746025334061noreply@blogger.com0