Emotion-Focused

難得 Professor Leslie Greenberg 來 HKU 開 2-day workshop, 無論如何都不能錯過這位 Pope of Emotion-Focused Therapy 大師級的教學。

因為遲到而有幸坐在最前排的位置，眼前的他出奇地親切，活像坐鹿車而來的聖誕老人，對人的 emotions 敏感度很高，很難想像他曾是一位工程師。

一連兩天朝九晚五，領我終於稍為了解怎樣分辨 primary emotion & secondary emotion, 難度是怎樣準確地 reflect & transforming emotion, change emotion with emotion, 有些人需要多些 validation, 另一些人可能要多些 silence, Therapist’s empathic responses 和敏感度會有決定性的影響。

Two-chair dialogue for self-criticism 很吸引，但不容易掌握，我覺得難度遠高過 CBT or Psychodynamic Approach.

最深刻的莫過於 Professor Greenberg said “If you let the tears speak, just let it speak....”

The Guest House

沒有報讀EFT，只因擔心沒時間應付 N 的功課，要感謝同學轉寄過來的 notes
，還有我十分喜歡的這一段文字：

The Guest-House

This being human is a guest-house
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture.

Still, treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you
out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

- Say I Am You poems of Rumi, translated by John Moyne and Coleman Barks Maypop 1994 -

Inner Strength

為做功課而看完這本 Virginia Axline 的 Dibs In Search of Self，很好，有一點得著。讓我明白到怎樣去了解孩子的心，原來接受孩子多一點，他們也會接受自己多一點，就算大人也一樣.... just accept who they are.

From V. Axline:

Believe that understanding will lead us to the threshold of more effective ways of helping the person to develop and utilize his capacities more constructively.

To avoid facing this reality factor would not help him. He needed to develop strength to cope with his world, but that strength had to come from within him.

Letting the client to develop strength or change from within oneself in order to achieve psychological independence. Incorrect affection may deter one’s ability and flexibility to explore his/her inner strength and resources.